Should you stay at your job that makes you miserable ?
So many times in life I just wanted to jump from my job, but if you do not have a safety net in place, that can be a dangerous thing.
I have heard stories of people getting ill from work, not because they were exposed to something (in my line of work that is a possibility), but from stress. Unless you work at a mine, or an industrial facility, then your worse exposure is probably from the guy who sits in the cube next to you who came to work sick.
Headaches, nausea, anxiety, I have experienced all these symptoms from too much stress at work. The first job I had out of college was in a high pressure, deadline drive, profit machine of a job. My job directly involved making or losing millions of dollars for the company. The job was very stressful, but it paid very well, and the stress got to everyone at one time or another. I had constant headaches, panic attacks, stomach aches, things I never normally experienced. I saw the life force literally getting sucked out of people, just so they had a few extra bucks on their checks.
A lot of people hate their jobs, they do not believe there is a dream job. I am feeling myself slipping into that category, I grew up with the belief that everyone hates their job, but they go anyway. I have a limiting belief that I am stuck with my current job, and there is no such thing as a dream job.
But what can you learn from job that makes you miserable? What you learn certainly cannot be taught in your dream job. I hated my corporate job, but it was a learning experience that I could have not learned anywhere else. A few key lessons for me;
Money does not solve your problems. I earned a very generous raise, and I thought it would make me feel better, but it did not. I could not even enjoy spending my money, more money did not bring me happiness. The stress , headaches, nausea was still there.
I enjoy working hard, but on my terms, not anyone else’s
There are some, actually most people that are motivated by money, and they will become monsters to get that money at any cost
If a company pays you a lot of money, they OWN you
So many people will stab you in the back if it makes them looks good
You always need a plan for your next move, have plan A, B C all in your back pocket and ready to go.
Any job that steals your life force, you need to quit. Fortunately when I was working for corporate, I knew from the get go that I was only going to stay a few years, make some money and jump ship. I had an escape plan from day one.
If you don’t have a plan, make one ! Plan your escape and your next move. Once your job has gotten to the point where you are getting sick and miserable, you need to get the fuck out ! Change your life situation, and take a hard look at why you are still there. If you are in a job that you hate why are you still there ?
Are you trying to impress someone ? Family or co workers?
Will you let someone down if you quit ?
Is it your only option in town ? Would you have to move to find a better job?
Would you have to take a pay cut to leave ?
Are you the breadwinner in the house and you have others depending on you?
There are countless reasons , but what can you do to get out ? Think about what lessons you have learned from this job, what skills you have picked up ? Are there anymore to learn before you leave ?