The grass always looks greener on the other side

Sometimes its hard to get over that fence, but when you do, and you look back, you realize the grass was green the whole time, you just had to see it from a different angle. Sometimes it hard to see outside the bubble you live in.

Its hard for the gold fish to experience life outside the fish tank. Some people live in a small opaque bubble, others in a large transparent bubble, some are always trying to expand their bubble and see what is on the out side. How do you know what you don’t know ? Some people let their bubble get smaller and smaller and they are ok with it. Their worldview shrinks so slowly they don’t even realize it . You cant call yourself worldly if you don’t travel more than a few miles away from your house.

There have been a few times in life, well actually more than a few where I suffered from grass is greener syndrome. I would be in a situation, and I felt like all I needed was a change , or a jump over the fence, and eventually I got there, just to realize the same problems are on the other side of the fence too. But since I was in my bubble I had a hard time seeing what was on the other side of the fence. There have a many times when I was in a menial job, or one with terrible working hours, and getting over the fence was a stepping stone into a better situation. A lot of companies want smart people, but people not smart enough to realize they are being taken advantage of. I lost a job, due to a price crash of commodities, and I took the first job I could find. I had a baby at home and needed some income. The first job I got wasn’t great, but it was some money coming in. It was seasonal, as in I was going to get laid at the end of the season, but it was better than no money coming in. I only worked there about a month before a better opportunity presented itself, and I put in my notice. The last day of work, my boss had to give me a ride home (I had a company truck that I had to return) and I was talking with him, and he told me, “ I need smart people, but people who are not smart enough to realize that they can get better jobs”. That quote has stuck with me, and the more I thought about it, the more I realized that is how a lot of the world works.

A lot of people hate their jobs, but they either don’t want to leave, or don’t have the ambition to learn how to do something they really want to. Or they have given themselves the golden handcuffs, The longer you stay in that job you hate, the smaller your bubble gets, the wall start shrinking, and you are not growing, and if you are not growing, you are dying.

So many things can limit your bubble, your job, your location, your school. But you can expand your bubble by seeking new experiences and new people. Some times its not always easy to get a new job, or the one you want just isn’t there. If you what you want doesn’t exist, why not create your own ?

The bubble is constantly pushing and pulling, you are expanding it when you go somewhere new, or take that new job in a new city. But eventually the new memories start to fade, and you need to make more to replenish the fading ones. You might start running into diminishing returns for the new experiences, and that’s when you have to realize the grass is green right under your feet, and choose your next adventures carefully.